At some point we have all experienced the "exaggerated" reactions of the little ones to things like that at mealtime they do not want to eat and they tell you "not as", or supermarket when you want something and do not you buy and thrown to the ground, shouts, cries or throws things.
The first explain that tantrums are evolutionarily appear healthy and is within normal limits if we are around a year and a half and three and a half. So quiet because just about the only way they know to express themselves and let you know that disagree and something happens to him.
When you notice that the child will begin to express themselves in this way more often, we must apply the following recommendations:
- Ignores their behavior: keep doing what you were doing or start another task. You're telling him this way so not worth, You have to ask otherwise.
- You can express how you're feeling with their behavior: "I'm getting angry lot".
- By adding short and firm words "that's enough" O "it's over", you give signs that their conduct must stop and identified that this behavior is not appropriate.
- Faced with conflicting situations like supermarket, you must maintain a relaxed attitude and tell him that you are not going to do what he asks of you "sorry, I will not buy teddy ". You teach how to deal with conflict situations with your model and with tears and tantrums will not get what he wants.
- When the tantrum continues, we must express ourselves clearly what we want him to do "When you're calmer I will listen". The attention of parents is a treasure, They will attempt to remove such behavior from their repertoire.
- At this point you can withdraw from the situation and remove him proportionate to the years time has (one minute per year) while you continue with your homework. Him away from the situation makes you calm because we are not pending their behavior, no draws our attention.
- As attitudes change, you must Congratulate immediately how glad you are that it's calm and that we can continue to do what we were doing. This is very important, the goal is to learn to express what he wants calmly. In life there are limits that if we respect life easier. Parents are a great model and we congratulate him when he gets.
We must remember that the first few times you will find it difficult to understand your new attitude and most likely intensify the tantrum more than usual. Stand firm until you get calm, All these steps are a valid technique.